Gabrielle Kassel

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My last relationship ended because we stopped having sex.
This might seem surprising considering that I write about sex for a living. But by the time I shut my laptop each day, my bandwidth for contemplating my own bedroom issues (and confronting them with my partner) is nearly nonexistent.
This isn’t just a me problem. Data suggests that nearly half of women want more (or better) partnered ...

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You can rely on Instacart and Grubhub when you’re craving tacos—but what do you do when you have a spicier yearning? By allowing you to purchase pleasure products straight from the sofa or subway, the best places to buy sex toys online offer a quick and convenient way to get yours. And, while using sex toys isn’t so...

Going a full four-hour drive to visit my long-term, long-distance FWB without drinking a single sip of water may get me to my destination faster. But, as I’ve come to learn, the downside of this stunt is that it makes my mouth far drier than I’d like it to be for the messy sex I schlepped out for. So, you can imagine my delight when a solution arrived at my door: Flintts Mints ($8 for a tin of 30 mints).
Experts in This Article
Marla Renee Stewart
sex educator with Lovers and co-author of The...

The genitals may hog the orgasm spotlight, but you can actually feel fireworks from stimulating other erogenous zones, too—nipples included. Introducing: the nipple orgasm, a category of climax that follows a focus on those nerve-dense nubs.
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Rachel Wright
licensed marriage and family therapist
Rufus Spann
founder of Libido Health, an AASECT-certified sex therapist and sexpert with Meridian Grooming
Jessica O’Reilly
doctor of human sexology, host of the SexWithDrJess Po...

It may have been the promise of Robby Hoffman as a dashing Dom extra and a shining Jenny Slate performance that convinced me to start watching the new FX series Dying for Sex. But it was the frank conversation about hog-tying—a form of sexual bondage—that really sucked me into the series, just 20 minutes into episode one. Finally, I thought. A portrayal of kink that is honest, caring, and funny all at once.
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Amanda K. Rue
intimacy coordinator, BDSM Educator, and one of ...

Just as Himalayan salt does to an avocado half, the best bullet vibrator can level-up your solo, partnered, or multi-partnered sex life. But how do you choose the right one?
Experts in This Article
Javay Frye-Nekrasova
AASECT-certified sex educator with Lovehoney, known as The Millennial Sexpert
Marla Renee Stewart
sex educator with Lovers and co-author of The Ultimate Guide To Seduction and Foreplay
Lisa Finn
sex educator and brand manager at Babeland
For those who are unfamiliar, bullet vib...

As the parent of a high-energy border collie and a proud owner of a walking pad, I wanted to find the best Hoka shoes for walking. In recent years, I’ve seen runners wax poetic about the brand’s pillowy, pretty models. But their sneakers, slides, sandals, and boots are also known to support feet at, well, a slower pace. “The right walking shoe will depend on the levels of cushion and stability that you need, based on the structure of your feet,” says Anne Sharkey, DPM, a double board-certifie...

Unless you're a collegiate crew athlete or a CrossFit regular, chances are you ignore the rowing machine as blatantly as Big did Carrie, Benny Blanco does hair gel, or my last Hinge date does women’s rights (yikes). But here’s the deal: the rower (a.k.a. the ergometer) offers serious health perks and can help you hit a wide range of fitness goals—from building muscle to burning fat.
“Rowing is one of the rare exercises that strengthens your muscles and boosts your cardiovascular fitness at th...

What you eat doesn’t just impact how you feel day to day—it can also play a big role in how your body ages over time. A healthy aging diet supports everything from energy and skin elasticity to cell repair and muscle maintenance.
“What you eat impacts energy levels, skin elasticity, and cell repair and regeneration processes,” says board-certified family medicine and regenerative anti-aging medication specialist Gowri Reddy Rocco, M.D., M.S.—all of which impact how we look and feel now and la...

In terms of gut support, herbal solutions tend not to get as much attention as probiotics, but emerging research suggests they’re unsung supporting actors. In a recent 2024 study published in Nutrients, researchers from the National University of Natural Medicine in Portland, Oregon, found that certain chemical compounds in herbs can help support the growth of beneficial gut bacteria (like Lactobacillus), while limiting the growth of potentially harmful bacteria (like Salmonella). Meanwhile, ...

Your workouts might be helping you build strength and stamina, but when it comes to supporting a healthy sex drive, more isn’t always better. In fact, one of the lesser-known signs of overtraining is a noticeable dip in libido.
As it turns out, there’s a sweet spot when it comes to how much exercise actually supports a healthy sex drive, according to men’s health expert and board-certified specialist in sports dietetics Kylene Bogden, M.S., R.D.N., C.S.S.D., co-founder of FWDfuel.com and Clev...

Stress, exposure to environmental factors, and insufficient sleep are commonly associated with lower testosterone levels, which is thought to impact up to 40 percent of all men. One major factor that often goes overlooked: Diet and testosterone levels are deeply connected.
“What we eat and drink plays a critical role in testosterone production,” says Justin Houman, M.D., a board-certified urologist who specializes in hormone health, sexual health, and fertility, and the Senior Medical Advisor...

With potential benefits ranging from stronger bones and mobile joints to improved mood and cardiovascular function, it makes complete sense that you would want to build muscle. But while you know that strength training helps us achieve new gains, you might struggle with when the optimal time is to power through a session.
Will dragging yourself to the gym before the sunrise (and pre-breakfast) maximize gains? Or, is it better to work out in the afternoon or evening when you’re well-rested and...