If you've ever jumped into a pool and immediately had your goggles slide down your face or fill with water, you know the importance of a good pair of swim specs.
Even though most people’s job descriptions don’t include routinely (or even rarely) asking such questions, a lot of us are curious about the same exact conundrums. That’s why I asked sex educators to share the top questions they’re asked most frequently—plus how they respond. Keep scrolling to get down to business.
For as long as I can remember, seeking alternative outlets for health-care information has been a part of my sexual-wellness routine. As a queer, cisgender, white, able-bodied woman, the reason is two-fold: First, the in-school sex education I received is best explained with the face-palm emoji. And second, most doctor offices are no better.
There are ~almost~ as many designs of sex toys as there are sex positions–trying to pick one that fits your preferences can be harder than finishing your first CrossFit WOD. But most can be relegated to specific categories. To our rescue, sex and relationships educator Sarah Sloane (who's been teaching sex toy classes at Good Vibrations and Pleasure Chest since 2001) breaks down 12 of the most common types of sex toys with info on the benefits and best-use practices for each.
What do one-legged doggy style, Bulgarian split squats, and tossing a frisbee have in common? They all technically qualify as unilateral training—the underrated, highly beneficial style of exercise that involves working one side of your body at a time (don't @ me, the sex position counts!).
A strap-on is like lube in the sense that it can make anyone’s sex life better, regardless of their gender or sexuality. Suitable for vaginal sex, anal sex, blow jobs, manual sex, and masturbation, strap-ons may be worn or received by both people with penises and people with vaginas, as well as everyone in between.
Sometimes when two people love each other very very much (or both right-swiped each other)... Okay, you get it. This is a clunky version of The Sex Talk™ meant to bring up something questionable that grown-ass adults are doing in the bedroom: using the pull-out method.
I’m a sex writer who test-drives then writes about sex toys. So, when the term “dead vagina syndrome” was getting tossed around the internet to describe vibrator-induced nether region numbness, I wondered: Do I need workers’ comp? Should I cut back on the buzz?
I called up my go-to sex and vulva experts to help answer this very important question: Could too much quality time with vibrators actually desensitize my clit or mess with any other part of my vagina?
Recently, just hours before meeting up with a new Tinder match, I beasted a particularly grippy CrossFit workout that basically entailed twirling around a pull-up bar like a wanna-be-gymnast. (Think: an AMRAP of bar muscle-ups, toes-to-bar, and burpee pull-ups).
The aftermath? My hands were totally torn up, and my calluses were hard as rocks. Cute #lewk a first date? Eh, probably not.
Shelving: the act of chatting someone up in a way that suggests something more is going to happen in real life but then using work obligations to avoid making definitive plans to meet offline. Usually, this is accompanied by a plea to stay in touch and/or a promise to meet up when work settles down. But it rarely results in actually meeting.
You know that iconic moment when Oprah gave away a car to everyone in the audience? Well, with all the jibber-jabber about anal as of late, I like to imagine her saying, "You get to try anal! And you get to try anal! And you get to try anal!".
Sound crazy? Let me remind you that, considering 36 percent of adult women have tried anal sex, there are more people indoctrinated into the Anal Sex Club than there are who own cats!