Gabrielle Kassel

Hand jobs might have a reputation as “teenager sex,” but with as much pleasure potential as any other kind of play — yes, including penetrative vaginal and anal sex! — HJs deserve a place in your adult playtime, too. Scroll down for a, um, handy guide to making hand jobs everything.

At its very best, finger-banging is incredibly hot. Like, really hot.
But at its worst, it can be more painful/annoying/irritating than your (now ex) partner getting too high and forcing you to sit through 2 hours of cartoons on date night…
That’s where this handy guide to hand sex comes in. Read it now, and your partner will be thanking you (read: experiencing pleasure) later.

Enhanced sensation! Increased pleasure! Better sex! That’s the marketing pitch behind textured condoms. But there’s something that commercials for these ribbed and dotted rubbers don’t tell you. While it’s true that the texture can, for some people, make sex even better, for those with sensitive bits it can be irritating AF.

Sing it with us: Heaaaad, shoulders, vulva/peen and toes.

Imagine if — beyond just being an adult remake of the classic nursery rhyme — that was a list of (just some of) the body parts involved in an orgasm.

Well, in full-body orgasms, they are.

They may also lust after avoidant-attached folks because the dynamic is similar to what they had with their parents. Ever meet someone who seemed like they had no feelings at all? They were likely avoidant-attached.

If you’re reading this, odds are you’re a proud, pleasure-seeking vibrator owner. And panties hats off to you! Vibrators are a great addition to solo, partnered, and multi-partnered sex alike. But here’s the rub: Lots of sex-having babes mistakenly think the joy of sex toys start and end with their buzzy BFF.
Well, spoiler alert: That’s false!

Woah, woah, woah, can you get an STI from a sex toy?
The short answer: Yup!

But try not to freak out too much, you can’t spontaneously get a sexually transmitted infection (STI) from a sex toy.

Maybe you caught that one “House Hunters” episode that had HGTV-lovers around the globe up in arms. Or maybe you binged “Politician” specifically for that throuple subplot (#relatable).
Or maybe you were rooting for (read: turned on by) Alice, Nat, and Gigi in Showtime’s “The L Word: Generation Q.”

Ready for a statistic that’ll blow your mind and likely make you feel less alone?

A 2019 survey of 1,232 Kinkly.com readers found that 87 percent of females and 69 percent of males have faked an O at least once in their lifetime.

That’s a lot of performing!

If you’ve ever left a sex sesh — be it partnered or solo — confused about whether you or your vulva-owning partner reached the O-Zone, this guide is for you.

Orgasms are always pleasurable, right? Actually, wrong. For some people, orgasms aren’t even “just OK.” They’re downright painful. Officially known as dysorgasmia, painful orgasms are something someone of any anatomy can experience.

“No, it’s not normal or healthy to be experiencing painful orgasms,” says pelvic floor therapist Julie Gillespie PT, DPT, OCS, with Gillespie Physical Therapy in Los Angeles, California.

Despite what you may have heard — whether you’re multi-partnered, partnered, or single — watching, reading, or listening to (ethical, consensual) porn isn’t inherently wrong.
Likewise, engaging with (ethical, consensual) porn while in a relationship doesn’t inherently count as cheating.

“Scar tissue is the body’s way of healing what’s been damaged or injured — it’s the body’s healing mechanism,” says Heather Jeffcoat, a doctor of physical therapy who specializes in sexual dysfunction, pain, and incontinence, and author of “Sex Without Pain: A Self-Treatment Guide to the Sex Life You Deserve.”

To make the whole global pandemic thing worse, there’s been an uptick in folks dreaming about their ex.

Fear not: COVID-19 isn’t conspiring to get you and your ex back together. And no, “dreaming about an ex” is not a symptom of the illness.

Certified dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg says that generally speaking (read: pandemic or not), it’s very (very!) normal to dream about an ex. So why exactly has the implementation of physical distancing led to an increase in ex dreams?

Found yourself in an accidental long-distance relationship thanks to the COVID-19 pandemic? Hunting for a novel way to get off with a partner? Try video sex.
Video sex isn’t a “desperate times calls for desperate measures” situation.
Pandemic or not, video sex rocks!