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Sex parties are canceled. The bars, restaurants, and fitness studios where you’d usually find someone to bang are closed. The dating app Tinder even put out a precaution about dating and mating in the time of coronavirus. And yet, the internet’s spewing predictions about all the babies that are going to get made during this pandemic.
Ah yes, “sexual peak,” the oh-so-magical and (very specific) age during which someone supposedly has The Best Sex of Their Life. For people with penises, this is said to be in college, while vulva owners are thought to hit it in their early 30s. The problem? The concept of “sexual peak” (also called “sexual prime”) is a largely made-up concept!
The term “lesbian bed death” has been around since, well, for as long as there have been U-hauls. It refers to the phenomenon in long-term relationships where sex goes MIA.
Recently, from it, a new gender- and sexuality-inclusive term has emerged, nodding to the fact any couple’s sex life can take a turn toward the nonexistent.
First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes… bad sex?
That’s not how the rhyme goes, but that’s what all the hoopla around postmarital sex would have you believe.
Good news: It’s exactly that. Hoopla! Fuss! Fallacy!
Initiating sex is sooo pre-#MeToo movement. Inviting someone to have sex is much more hip (read: consensual and gender-inclusive). Below, sex educator and activist August McLaughlin, author of “Girl Boner” and “Girl Boner Journal,” and Dr. Chris Donaghue, sex and intimacy expert at SKYN Condoms, explain the misogynistic undertones of the former, and how an invitation to sex is a consensual and pleasure-based approach to getting it on.
Ever heard the phrases “penis envy,” “Oedipal complex,” or “oral fixation”? They were all coined by famed psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud as part of his psychosexual theory of development. We won’t lie — without a PhD in human psychology, Freud’s theories can sound like a whole lot of psychobabble. Not to worry! We put together this conversational guide to help you understand what psychosexual development is all about.
Generally speaking, a labiaplasty does to your vertical lips what a barber does to your split ends.
Also known as vaginal rejuvenation, labiaplasty is a plastic surgery procedure that involves modifying the labia minora (inner lips), and/or the labia majora (outer lips).
“A labiaplasty is most often performed on the labia minora, the folds closest to the clitoris, to create a ‘tucked in’ appearance,” explains board-certified anti-aging expert Dr. Sofia Din, author of Do We Really Need Botox: A Handbook of Anti-Aging.
What are the reasons some vulva owners are taking the blade to their bits?
Cue your Oprah voice, because you get a hard-on, and you get a hard-on, and you get a hard-on…That’s right, folks of all genders and genitalia can get erections, not just people with penises! But chances are you didn’t learn that in health class. So, to help you become more cliterate, we put together this sheet on clitoral erections.
Sure, partnered sex is great! But certified sex coach Gigi Engle, Womanizer sexpert, and author of “All The F*cking Mistakes: A Guide to Sex, Love, and Life,” has some news for you: “Your solo sessions are as, if not more, important as partnered sessions.”
“Lean into that,” she suggests. These tips can help.
If your life is more about getting things done then getting done, it’s time to enjoy a quickie.
“Real life is not like the movies, so sometimes making time for lengthier romps isn’t realistic,” says CalExotics’ resident sexologist Dr. Jill McDevitt. Retweet.
The key is remembering that sex doesn’t start or stop at Pound Town.
What do vibrators, iPhones, and toaster ovens have in common? You can turn them on with the push of a button. Your body, fam, isn’t on that list.
“Mainstream movies and TV make it seem like spontaneous desire — in which you’re suddenly or randomly turned on — is the norm,” says Jill McDevitt, CalExotics’ resident sexologist.
“And while it certainly happens — especially at the start of relationships — it’s not the only way for good or healthy sex to start.”
Most vulva owners have been taught that their vaginas are icky, gross, stinky, and weird.
So, if you’re interested in changing the taste of your vagina, know this: A healthy vagina doesn’t taste like flowers, a fresh summer breeze, or vanilla. It tastes like vagina.
And that can be sweet or sour, metallic, sharp or spiced, bitter or acidic.